Friends

Friends- 1. To act as the friend of : befriend. 2. to include (someone) in a list of designated friends on a person's social networking site. Merriam-Webster Dictionary

Some many of us thrive on the fact that we have a gang of friends, but let's be honest how many of your so called "friends" are really your friends.

To be a friend is a mini part-time job, no really it is. You have to be physically, emotionally, mentally and sometimes spritually invested. Now if this is somethng you dont think you can handle or can do please dont put yourself in the position to be called anyones friend. Before you know it you will be labled as never there, a runner, heartless, you get my drift.

I will admit at times I do not think Im a really good friend. I dont call my friends all the time, I dont see them on a weekly or even monthly basis. I can even be very mean and distant to them if they catch on the wrong day; but my friends can never say I dont love them.

See God puts certain people in your life; some for a reason and some for a season. I also believe he designates each of us to have our own "Person or Persons".
These people love us unonditionally, they correct us when we're wrong, they make us angry, they make us happy and they make us sad but their our person. Friendship with these people may have started magaically and sometimes they start with dislike and even hate. Then something happens that neither one of you can explain but the bond you have is unwritten and unbroken.

Proverbs 18 has several verses that speak on friendship: (I recommend reading all of the Proverbs if you havent, it's very enightening)

Vs. 1 Unfriendly people care only about themselves; they lash out at common sense. NLT {Seriously, please dont be this person}

Vs. 19 An offended friend is harder to win back than a fortified city. Arguments separate friends like a gate locked with bars. NLT {I know it can be hard and dang near impossible to admit when your wrong or you have wronged your friend, you have to dig deep withnin  to admit that your wrong and savage your relationship. Dont ever let petty or ignorance ruin your friendship. Sometimes being right isn't worth losing a friend especailly a "GOOD" Friend.}

Vs. 24 There are "friends" who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother. NIV {In other words there are friends that will bail you out of jail and there are friends that will be sitting next to you in jail. LOL!} PLEASE DO NOT DO ANYTHING THAT'S GOING  TO SEND YOU TO JAIL!!!

Having friends can be wonderful even beautiful, but you have to step out of your selfish corner in order to be a good friend. If there's a freind even a love one that you haven't talked to or even seen for whatever reason; I would like you to do something:

1. Stop what your doing and have a heart to heart with God first, ask him to forgive you and to provide you with the words and the wisdom to ask your friend for forgiveness.

2. Do not text or e-mail them. You must either pick up a phone and call them or write them a handwritten letter, which ever you choose to do ; do it from the heart.

3. Finally forgive yourself. You can not move forward if your harboring pain and guilt. Like the song from Frozen says " Let it Go!, Let it Go!"

Whatever, you do never let go of your God assigned "Person", until next time.

Blessing,
Exquisite Mommy

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